Making clitoral action a regular part of your sex life can make orgasms more intense, but it's also a major game-changer for those who don't normally get orgasms from penetrative sex, whether because Are they on their period, either because they're looking for pain in insertion, or simply don't want to get rid of it.
Women have more than one orgasm
The fact that women can experience orgasm in different ways may be part of the reason why the female orgasm is such a mystery to some. Women can achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation (including the G-spot), or through various other sensory pathways, such as stimulation of the breasts or other erogenous areas.A clitoral orgasm is the closest thing to a male orgasm. It involves the clitoris becoming engorged or erect, while the orgasm itself provides release. After clitoral orgasm, continuing may be uncomfortable.
Orgasms achieved through vaginal stimulation are often described as "deeper" and more intense.
You can also achieve orgasm through means other than genital stimulation. You may orgasm when your breasts are stimulated or when you use sexual imagery.
You may have one type of orgasm all the time, or you may have different types depending on what you're doing, or you may have some mix. You are a unique individual, and your orgasm is sure to be one of the most personal experiences you can have.
What all orgasms have in common
During orgasm, a few things happen in the human body, whether male or female. For example, your heart rate increases, your breathing increases, and your metabolism increases, which leads to orgasms and periods.Researchers have identified four stages of female orgasm, regardless of type.
1. Excited
Described as a state of arousal or desire, this stage involves your body starting to get ready for sex. Certain hormones increase, blood begins to fill your sex organs, and you may feel flushed all over.2. Plateau
During this phase, sexual tension increases. You probably can't think of anything other than sexual stimulation. Your heart rate and blood pressure continue to rise.3. Orgasm
When you orgasm, your vagina, uterus, pelvic floor muscles, and sometimes muscles all over your body contract rhythmically.4. Resolution
With orgasm, your body relaxes and your heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing slow to more normal levels.What is an orgasm?
"Clinically, orgasm is the rhythmic contraction of the genitals," says Jenni Skyler, MD, AASECT-certified sex therapist and director of the Intimacy Institute. "This is the climatic peak of human awakening."During orgasm, your vagina and uterus contract rapidly, and your heart rate, breathing, and blood pressure increase. But Skyler also describes orgasm as "the capacity to surrender to maximum pleasure."
What does an orgasm feel like?
Considering that all bodies are different, the feeling of an orgasm is completely subjective. However, Skyler likes to describe it as "the pinnacle of pleasure, or the ability to liven and electrocute your entire body and genitals." Anecdotally, many people who have vaginas describe it as "when you feel it, you know it," an overwhelming feeling.How long do orgasms usually last?
Again, it depends on the person, but in general, "orgasms can last anywhere from a few seconds to 20 or 30 seconds," says Skyler. "For some women, it can last up to a minute, especially depending on whether it's a multi-orgasmic experience."1. Clitoral orgasm
How to achieve clitoral orgasm: First, you need to figure out whether you prefer direct stimulation or indirect stimulation, that is, touching the clitoris itself, or through the labia and clitoral hood. Marin recommends rubbing it with your fingers (not a sex toy) first, "in a spiral motion around the clitoris."Your fingers, palms, and vibrator can all help you achieve a clitoral orgasm. Make sure your clitoris is wet, then start rubbing lightly from side to side or up and down, when it feels slowly getting stronger, you can apply heavier and faster pressure, after this, your pleasure will slowly increase , please put more pressure on your movements to push yourself beyond the limit.
2. G-spot orgasm
"The G-spot is a hypothetical highly erogenous area on the vaginal wall in front of (or before) the urethral sponge and can be stimulated during sexual activity," says Loanzon. "It's the female equivalent of the prostate."How to get a G-spot orgasm: "Pee first so you don't stop yourself from orgasming, because G-spot stimulation can lead to the need to pee and female ejaculation," says sex coach Amy Levine, "Put your middle finger in Vagina, on the belly button side of the body. You will feel an area that may be rippling in texture. Stop there and use close motions to stimulate or toy to rub or vibrate that area."
If you're having penetrative sex, try a position that hits your G-spot - doggy positions are great for this - and keep stimulating the area until you orgasm.
3. Hybrid orgasm
"A hybrid orgasm combines clitoral stimulation with some sort of other stimulation, and it's actually a great way — once you've mastered clitoral orgasm — to figure out how the rest of your body feels," says Marin. So, in theory, you could have a hybrid orgasm by stimulating both the nipples and the G-spot, but the most common combination is the clitoris and the G-spot.How to get a hybrid orgasm: If your G-spot and clitoral orgasms are down, you're in good shape—basically, just stimulate the G-spot along with your clitoris.
If nipple tweaking, earlobe biting, or anus is what gets you going, focus on that. But for most people with a clitoris, involving the area increases your odds of having a mixed orgasm.
4. Anal orgasm
"There is a common nerve from the anterior wall of the rectum to the vagina," Dr. Loanzon previously told Women's Health. "So for someone who has a vagina, rectal stimulation could be sexually arousing," she says. Plus, the legs of the clitoris extend all the way to the anus, so backdoor stimulation can excite the clitoris too.How to have an anal orgasm: Alicia Sinclair, certified sex educator and b-vibe CEO, recommends incorporating your tried-and-true orgasm skills into any anal adventure. She also recommends relaxing anal play by inserting your fingers first, "so you can be both the giver and the taker." Use plenty of lube, too, and go slowly.
"When you put something in the anal canal, push up toward the navel the same way you would in the vagina," Sinclair explains. That way, "you have the same potential to stimulate that central nervous area," she says.
5. C-spot orgasm
The C-spot is your cervix and involves the nerve endings that surround the cervix and uterus. Anatomical differences and surgical history—that is, hysterectomy, which involves removing the cervix—can affect a person's ability to achieve cervical orgasm, as can a partner's penis size (if your partner happens to have one). Hard thrusting with a particularly gifted partner can be damaging, so share how cervical stimulation feels for you.How to Get a Cervical Orgasm: Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., sexologist-in-residence author of ASTROGLIDE's new sex bible, tells Women's Health that the key to cervical orgasm is accumulation. If you're super excited, you stand a better chance of achieving a goal—and enjoying that pleasurable rather than painful C-spot feeling. So, keep inserting deeply until you're close to orgasm, then let your partner insert (or use a sex toy or finger) so they hit your cervix.
6. Nipple orgasm
You probably already know where and where your nipples are, but what you might not know is that some people can orgasm just from stimulation. As Men's Health reports, in a study of 213 women, 29 percent reported having a breast orgasm at some point in their lives."When the nipples are stimulated, oxytocin is released, which causes the same uterine and vaginal contractions that are associated with orgasm," says Christian Northrup, MD, an ob-gyn and author of The Women's Bodies, Author of The Wisdom of Women. "This brings more blood flow to the genitals and can lead to an orgasm."
How to Get Nipple Orgasms: "When it comes to nipple/breast pleasure, I don't get too attached to the goal of orgasm," says O'Reilly. "Focus on being happy and see where it leads."
O'Reilly recommends experimenting with the area just above the areola, which many people find most sensitive to touch. "Start at the outer edge, using the backs of your fingers, and work your way into the center in slow circles," says O'Reilly. You can also roll your nipple with your thumb and forefinger.
Some people may find it wonderful to have their partner breathe, lick, suck, or pinch their nipples. This is all subjective, so it will take a lot of experimentation to see what works best for you. Light touch, at least at first, is probably best for breast action. Try gentle chest cupping while stimulating your nipples with your tongue or a vibrator instead of full grip.
7. Core Orgasm
A core orgasm is "when you work out and you have an orgasm" from physical activity alone, Marin says.How to Have an Orgasm: Unfortunately, this probably isn't something you can train your body to do. "It seems like people are just born to do it that way, and it's often an annoyance, and it often is," Marin continued. Because yes, working out in a crowded gym and not being able to stop yourself from orgasming can get...awkward.
Typically, Marin explains, core orgasms happen in two ways: "One is running, where your thighs might rub together, and you get a little indirect clitoral stimulation." But more often, it comes from core training. "Some people with vaginas get them through sit-ups. Others experience them through yoga-style exercises, or in a bridge position that really engages your core," adds Marin. So maybe it's more of an experiment in exercising at home...
8. Skin Orgasm
Skin orgasms, also known as "thrills," are like the tingling sensation you get in your extremities when you hear a particularly touching song. Maybe you get goosebumps, maybe your hair stands on end, or maybe you're shaking a little.How to Get a Skin Orgasm: Research shows that skin orgasms are most often triggered by music — but emotionally arousing scenes from movies, moving artwork, or even other people with whom you have a special connection can all trigger thrills. Still, it's an unpredictable thing.
9. Breathing orgasms
"Sex is often categorized as a physical act involving our genitals, but the reality is that the hottest sex happens between our ears—and it's often enhanced by how we use our breath and lungs," O'Reilly Say. "Your breathing affects how you interpret sensations and helps put your mind into a state conducive to experiencing pleasure." That said, you can actually orgasm just by breathing—while eliminating possible distractions. Intrusive thoughts that please attention, O'Reilly added.How to Get a Breathing Orgasm: First things first: O'Reilly recommends finding a quiet, comfortable place to lie flat. Place your hands on your belly, inhale deeply through your nose so you can feel the rise and fall of your hands, and exhale with your mouth open. Slowly, begin to mentally scan your body from head to toe, actively relaxing each part of your body during the scan.
"The way you breathe has a major impact on your sexual and orgasmic response," explains O'Reilly. "While each of our bodies is unique, many report that deep, slow breathing enhances their orgasm, even leading to multiple orgasms."
But because everyone orgasms differently—whether through breathing exercises or physical contact—there's no right way to do it: "You have to experiment with different types of breathing to see what works for you," she continues Say, whether it's quick, shallow breaths, slow, deep breaths, inhaling through the nostrils, or any other way of breathing that makes you feel particularly good when imagining yourself in an arousal scene.
10. Fantasy Orgasm
"Thinking's grip on our sexuality is so powerful that some people can actually 'think' themselves," says O'Reilly. This one is pretty self-explanatory: we're talking about fantasizing about the way you orgasm—without touching your body, just exercising your brain muscles until you're at your peak. Often, breathing exercises and fantasies go hand in hand—you may find that imagining scenarios and physical responses works best when combined with breathing exercises.How to have a fantasy orgasm: "While only a small percentage of people report orgasm through fantasy alone, you might want to try the power of your mind," says Dr. O'Reilly. "Letting your mind roam into uncharted territory can help you recognize and benefit from your truest fantasies and untapped desires."
Don't let any illusions be off limits, let your mind go where it wants to go. Focus on your sexiest scenes—while also engaging in whatever breathing work feels best to you—and immerse yourself in them, imagining the touch and vibe. Really let yourself into the scene, and continue to use your imagination until you and your fantasy self climax.
11. Sleep orgasms
"People of all genders can orgasm during sleep. Orgasm happens in the brain, and the brain is very active at night," Marin told Women's Health.How to have sleep orgasms: "Unfortunately, there's no way to bring yourself to have sleep orgasms. They're fun when they happen, but there's nothing you can do to create them," says Marin. damn it.
So go ahead... give some of these a try. Even if you don't end up having your first, tenth, or hundredth orgasm, you'll still have fun learning about your body and its desires.